So you’re expecting again, but you’ve already got a toddler running around. Congratulations…and buckle up! You may be experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions, including excitement, exhaustion, and a dash of, “Oh my gosh, what have I gotten myself into?” If you’re feeling a little (or a lot) overwhelmed, don’t worry; it’s expected and totally understandable. First, take a deep breath. Then, take a precious moment to focus on yourself. Read these tips to help you get through this pregnancy—and remember to enjoy this special time, too!
1. Embrace the Power Nap
Let’s be honest, growing a human is no joke. It requires tremendous energy, and it’s OK to feel tired. Fatigue can hit hard, especially during the first trimester (months one through three). Here are some strategies for catching those all-important hours of rest at every pregnancy stage:
- Power up. Embrace the power nap whenever you can, even if it means snuggling up with your toddler on the couch for a quick snooze.
- Sync sleep. When your little one takes a nap, seize the moment to recharge your batteries, too.
- Tag team. If you have a partner, tag-team nap times so you each get a chance to rest while the other entertains your toddler. This way, you both get some much-needed rest without sacrificing quality time with your little one.
2. Take Baby Steps
The thought of nine months of pregnancy while juggling a toddler can seem daunting. Try to focus on one day at a time. The following can help you stay organized and energized:
- Create a schedule (and be flexible with it). A routine can help provide structure and predictability for both you and your toddler. But adjust as needed—some days call for an impromptu tea party or extra snuggles.
- Prepare meals in advance. Batch cook on the weekends or freeze leftovers to save time and effort on jam-packed weekdays.
- Keep a “busy bag” handy. Fill a bag with toys, books, and snacks to keep your toddler entertained while you tackle a quick chore or add items to your online baby registry.
Break down tasks into smaller, manageable chunks, and celebrate every little victory, whether it’s making it to nap time or successfully getting everyone dressed and out the door. Every small step is a win!
3. Prioritize Self-Care
Pregnancy is a time to nurture yourself, both physically and emotionally. It’s fine to slow down and prioritize your well-being. Indulge in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Here are a few ideas:
- Tranquility techniques: Explore calming practices like meditation, deep breathing exercises, or listening to soothing music.
- Prenatal yoga: Around four months pregnant, many women find gentle prenatal yoga to be a wonderful way to connect with their changing body, improve flexibility, and reduce stress. Plus, you’ll meet other moms-to-be.
- Pampering rituals: Treat yourself to a warm bath, a massage, or a simple at-home spa day.
- Creative outlets: Engage in hobbies that bring you contentment, whether it’s painting, writing, knitting, or anything else that sparks your creativity.
- Nature therapy: Spend time outdoors taking leisurely walks or simply soaking up the sunshine and all that vitamin D.
- Quality time: Connect with loved ones, engage in meaningful conversations, and enjoy their company.
4. Fuel Your Body (and Your Soul)
While those nutritious, balanced meals are super important for you and your growing baby, we all know that pregnancy cravings are a whole different ball game. Sometimes, a salad just won’t cut it, and all you can think about is a big bowl of ice cream or a cheesy slice of pizza. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Listen to your body’s cravings (within reason) and delight in the occasional treat. You deserve it.
5. Keep Moving
Staying active during pregnancy is essential for you and your baby, but it can be challenging with a toddler in tow. Look for ways to incorporate your little one into your workouts, like dancing together or going for stroller walks. Don’t be afraid to modify exercises or take breaks when needed.
6. Enlist Your Support System
Go ahead and ask for help when you need it, whether you need assistance with errands or childcare or just want a trusted sounding board. Remember, it takes a village to raise a child, and that’s especially true when you’re trying to manage pregnancy and toddlerhood.
Here are some ways to tap into your support system:
- Be open. Communication is key when you need a helping hand. Share how you’re feeling and what specific tasks you could use help with. Your loved ones often want to support you but might not know how. Be direct and ask for what you need—whether it’s a ride to the doctor, help with meal prep, or someone to watch your toddler while you nap. And remember, when someone offers to help, feel free to say, “Yes!”
- Delegate tasks. If you have a partner, discuss how you can share responsibilities around the house and with childcare. Consider creating a chore chart or schedule to ensure everyone knows what’s expected of them.
- Join a support group. Connecting with other moms, either online or in person, who are going through similar experiences can be incredibly helpful. You can share tips, vent frustrations, and offer each other support.
- Sign up for birthing classes. As you approach the eighth-month pregnancy mark, consider enrolling in a birthing class with your partner. It’s a great way to learn about labor and delivery, meet other expectant parents, and prepare for the big day.
7. Prep Your Toddler
Talk to your toddler about the new baby coming. Use simple language they can understand and emphasize how much they’ll be loved and how special it is to be a big brother or sister.
Here are some ways to involve them in the preparation and create excitement:
- Set up the nursery together. Let them help pick out colors and decorations or even choose a special toy for the baby.
- Read books about becoming a sibling. There are tons of great children’s books that can help your toddler understand what to expect and get excited about their new role.
- Involve them in baby prep. Let them help pick out baby clothes, fold tiny onesies, or decorate the diaper bag.
- Start establishing routines. Practice bedtime and mealtime routines or quiet playtime so your toddler will be ready when the new little one arrives.
- Talk about sharing and taking turns. Explain how important it will be to share toys and attention with the new baby.
8. Play and Have Fun
Try to make time for fun and play with your toddler. Read books, sing songs, build pillow forts, or have dance parties in the living room. This will strengthen your bond and help your little one feel loved and secure during this period of change.
9. Embrace the Mess (and the Moments)
Let’s get real, pregnancy with a toddler can be messy, both literally and figuratively. There will be spills, tantrums, and unexpected challenges. But amid the chaos, there will also be moments of pure happiness, laughter, and connection. Embrace them all. These are the moments that matter most.
Be kind to yourself, ask for help when you need it, and don’t forget to find joy in the journey. You’ve got this!