How do you measure the life of a person? Is it the memories that you share? The pictures, videos, or the stories told in retrospect? Or is it the void that fills our hearts when we yearn for a loved one long gone beyond our reach? September 11, 2001, remains a day of immense sorrow and grief for us. A tragedy. A day when we are left to ponder over the meaning of life, especially in the face of loss, death, and decay. 2977 deaths and 25000 injuries, including our troops and other men in service, not to mention the mental torture that followed after.
We came face to face with evil, and ever since, we are forced to live with that reality, especially the families directly affected by the loss and the troops who continue to suffer through the trauma.
The scripture says,” the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not yet overcome it.” We have suffered, but with a little support, America can come out into the light. There are different ways in which we can approach the recovery journey after 9/11. These are;
1. Ignore the myths.
Tragedy and loss bring out a lot of grief and depression, and with this comes myths and speculation on how to handle it all. Examples are;
- Ignore the pain, it will go away. On the contrary, ignoring problems only elongates the road to recovery.
- Crying is a sign of weakness. When faced with grief, cry. Crying helps release the cooped-up emotions that would lead to depression.
- There is a limit to grief. Some communities have been known to limit the grieving period to periods such as a year or months even. On the contrary, we all approach grief and other emotions differently. Therefore, grieve for as long as you need to until you feel better.
2. Embrace all the stages of grief.
Grief has different stages;
For you to get a full recovery or even get close enough, you need to embrace all the stages of grief.
3. Seek help
A problem shared is a problem half solved. As cliché acute; as this sounds, the words are very accurate. Talking, just like crying, is an excellent form of outlet for built-up stress. A lot of people, especially our troops, might find it a bit difficult to seek professional help because they interpret it as being weak or broken.
However, talking to someone has proven beneficial over the years, and some of the people you could talk to are the psychologists or support groups where you are surrounded by individuals with whom you share the same trauma or that of close proximity. An example is the 9/11 support group.
4. Keep souvenirs
Keeping Souvenirs is a great way to remember those we have lost. Items such as clothing or pictures are a great example.
One of the most significant ways in which victims of 9/11 get to grieve, honor, and recognize the tragedy is by attending the memorial. If you are in a position to attend it, then please do. This puts you in an environment and atmosphere where you are surrounded by individuals who share in your pain, and for that one day, our troops and citizens get to honor our loved ones gone too soon but not forgotten.