How to Be Better in Bed: 9 Helpful Tips to Know

Did you know that 75% of men always reach climax during sex, while only 29% of women always reach climax during sex?

Upping your intimacy game in the bedroom can do wonders for your relationship and your connectivity with a person. 

Keep reading to find out how to be better in bed and improve your relationship. 

How to Be Good in Bed 

The age-old question is how to be great in bed. Pleasing your partner leads to greater sexual experiences for both of you. But there’s plenty of lovers out there who are disappointed by their sexual experiences. 

Having a great sex life with the person you love can also help to bring the two of you closer together in other aspects of the relationship. Why? Because the confidence and sexiness you build up in each other will shine through in other parts of your lives and relationship. 

The more you understand your partner; sexually, physically, and mentally, the better your sex will be. So implement these 9 tips to improve your sex:

  1. Ask and Listen

The first lesson you need to learn when it comes to how to be good at sex is that it doesn’t start with being physical.

The best way to please someone is by knowing what they like. This means that you need to find out what turns them on and what turns them off. You can do this by trial and error, but a quicker way to find out is by asking them and listening to what they have to say.

If you or your partner aren’t sure what you like, it might be useful to spend some time alone experiencing and exploring what you enjoy. 

  1. Set the Mood

Once you’ve found out what you both like, it’s important to spend some time setting the mood. Certain environments or stimuli can heighten you and your partner’s sexual experiences. 

Before you jump into foreplay, make sure you build up the mood. This could be anything from cuddling and kissing to spending time together doing activities you both enjoy such as cooking. 

  1. Practice Makes Perfection

When you’re both feeling as good as possible, it’s time to put it all into practice. After all, you won’t get any better at satisfying your partner without trying. 

Try implementing the things that they have said that they like. Don’t be afraid to mix things up as well, not everything will work out perfectly but it’s all about experimenting and seeing what works best for them.

  1. Be Present

Whatever sexual activity you and your partner engage in, it’s important that you’re both present and in the moment. This means you need to pay attention to your partner’s needs in every given moment. 

Being present requires eye contact and attentiveness. It doesn’t require you to run through a checklist of techniques because every sexual encounter is different and unique. Remember to respond to your partner’s movements and give in to their moment to moment desires.

  1. Get Your Daily Exercise

Exercise has multiple health benefits for your body. It also has several benefits that can improve your sex life. That’s right, regularly engaging in exercise can help to increase your sex drive and desire, improve your muscles and stamina, and boost your feel-good chemicals. 

Exercise can also help to reduce stress and depression, which are two psychological triggers of erectile dysfunction. Learn more about the psychological triggers of erectile dysfunction here

So if you’re wondering how to perform better in bed, the answer might be as simple as going for a 30-minute jog or going hiking.

  1. Sleep More

Stress can also be induced by not sleeping enough. High levels of the main stress hormone, cortisol, in the body can significantly decrease your sex drive. So, it’s important to prioritize your sleep.

Aim for between 7 and 9 hours each night and make sure you stick to a sleep routine. You should also think about improving the quality of sleep you get. You can do this by ensuring your room is dark and quiet, and that you don’t look at a screen at least an hour before bed.

  1. Play Together

Sharing is caring. It’s nice to make your partner center of attention sometimes, but the real fun happens where you play together. Think about how you can ensure your sexual experiences can be shared.

For example, ensure you’re both able to touch each other’s genitals and bounce off one another’s pleasure. Another example is to go into the 69 position during oral sex, to ensure you both get your fill.

  1. Try Different Things

If you’ve been in a long-term relationship for a while with your partner, your bedroom activities might feel a little boring. You might both do the same things and while it might work, it can feel like you’ve fallen into a routine.

There are lots of different things you can try to keep it exciting. For example, you could try out new positions, bring in sex toys, or go away on a romantic trip. You might also want to try and take sex out of the bedroom, and experience a different setting, such as the shower. 

  1. Make Time for Sex

Life can sometimes get in the way, but it’s important to make time for sex. You can’t pencil in exactly when you’ll both want to have sex, but you can dedicate at least one night a week to intimacy.

Before you have sex, you might also want to tease or entice your partner with sexy texts or pictures so they know what they’ll be getting later on.

Please Your Partner By Implementing Our Tips

Pleasing your partner can improve both of your sexual experiences and can bring you closer together. So why not try implementing our tips on how to get better in bed and see just how much more you both enjoy it? 

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