There are people on Instagram who create before & after photos to see their accomplishment.
We often admire them and give them thumbs up for their unbelievable fight and healthy attitude.
However, there are others who fake their way to gain more likes and followers. That’s completely unethical, but the social media made people do reckless things.
And in the end, there are these individuals who are realistic and want to show you the real picture behind these before & after photos.
Like this lady right here.
Meet Milly Smith. She is a 23-year-old nursing student that became mother recently.
She posted only one photo that attracted over 33,000 likes in one night. Yes, you heard that right. One overnight was enough for this lady to get the attention of thousands of people to receive her message.
She talks about an illusion women create by wearing tights high on their waists. We can see her flat stomach, tight gap, and teeny waist.
But, is this the real picture?
Take a look at the second pic.
Same girl, same day, same time. 💛 Not a before and after. Not a weight loss transformation. Not a diet company promotion. 💛 I am comfortable with my body in both. Neither is more or less worthy. Neither makes me more or less of a human being. Neither invites degrading comments and neither invites sleezy words. 💛 We are so blinded to what a real unposed body looks like and blinded to what beauty is that people would find me less attractive within a 5 second pose switch! How insanely ridiculous is that!? 💛 I love taking these, it helps my mind so much with body dysmorphia and helps me rationalise my negative thoughts. 💛 Don’t compare, just live for you. There is no one on this planet who’s like you and that’s pretty damn amazing don’t ya think. The world doesn’t need another copy, it needs you. 💛 We are worthy, valid and powerful beyond measure 💙🌟 (If you don’t pull your tights up as high as possible are you really human?)
The message is clear right here.
She didn’t stop here. In her Instagram captions, she talks about her past and present struggles with anxiety, depression, anorexia, low self-esteem, sexual abuse, and endometriosis.
Once she received the first couple of “booster” comments, she started realizing that Instagram could help her well-being.
She sees it as a therapeutic outlet. She wrote that it helps her mind and make her rationalize her negative thoughts.
Here is her story through these pictures and her amazing captions.
THIS PHOTO HAS BEEN EDITED ON PURPOSE! 1 minute to do on a free app, my waist is smaller, muscles more defined, arms and thighs smaller and butt bigger. Again highlighting how easy is is to manipulate and change the body at your finger tips in seconds. I’ve had so many of you message me today especially saying how you can’t stop comparing yourself to ‘fitness’ pages. I hate them; I’m not saying all of them are the same but we all know the ones im talking about- the ones making aesthetics out to be your life’s goal using the same body type over and over. ‘NO EXCUSES YOU LAZY TWAT’… you know the drill. First off, the women on those pages represent a TINY minority of women, beautiful just like the rest of us and their beauty does not take away from yours- there’s such a lack of variation with body types portrayed in fitness . Many of them have starved, restricted and over exercised to get the physique they have in the photo and if photoshopped hasn’t been used often strategic lighting/posing has. Secondly. STOP (hammer time) unfollow the pages if they are a negative source for you. Don’t look at them and instantly feel the pressure drop. Any page that tells you to look a certain way or hat exercise is purely weight lifting for aesthetics can’t be healthy for your mind. I used them as a form of self destruction to punish myself; I can only assume a lot of those pages thrive from insecure men and women. However fake or real the image take a step back and realise you don’t need to look or act like anybody else. You don’t need muscle tone, restriction or unrealistically hard abs to feel worth. Don’t waste your life chasing an image. Don’t wake up one day at 70 and think “I never did look like those women and I wish I’d of made memories and smiles with the time I spent comparing” We are worthy, we are valid and we are powerful beyond measure 💪🏻❤ Ps it’s so super hard and triggering for me to post these. It takes a lot of courage and you guys give me that courage ❤️
You DO NOT NEED AN EXCUSE to post a selfie. 💜 You don’t need to justify posting a cute picture, a half naked picture or whatever picture you like. Just an FYI. Post what makes YOU feel good and what YOU want to! 💛💜💙❤️ I’m on the train on the way to meet @my_life_without_ana & @selfloveliv and I’m so EXCITED!! What are you guys doing this weekend? 💛💛💛💛
Same day, same body. One is seen as more desirable, flat stomach and arched back to pop out that booty. The other is seen as bloated, less desirable with connotations of lazy yet it’s the same damn body!! Its so easy to distort our bodies, pose and suck in to fit into an ideal. I used to be scared and ashamed of my relaxed body as i was so used to seeing myself posed/sucked in. Both of these images are beautiful but I prefer the right, it’s me naturally without needing to breathe in or pop my butt out, im worthy, desirable and gorgeous without needing to change and thats so relieving to me. I laughed this morning as I could feel myself feeling bloated from Christmas, I used to reach for the baggiest clothes when bloated but this morning I reached for the tightest item of clothing I own and said suck it to the ideals. You can wear bodycon with a tummy and flat butt, you can wear tight clothing with rolls and bloat. Fuck ‘flattering’ it’s just another word for slimming and it can take a long walk off a cliff. All bodies shapes are beautiful, let’s get used to our natural state and stop trying to change ourselves, only feeling acceptable if we pose or suck in. We are worthy, we are powerful beyond measure and we can change the 🌎!
Just a same girl, same day, different pose reminder that our bodies look different in different angles and that it’s perfectly ok, normal and natural. You don’t need to look like anybody else but YOU ❤ 💛 I get asked a lot recently how to start a Bopo insta page as they want confidence. I often come up with nothing because I’m not entirely sure I understand. 💛 Are they asking me how to get started on a journey to self love or just how to start an insta page to get justification that their body is worthy in hope it will bring them self love? 💛 Before I put my photos and words out onto Instagram I started my journey to self love with myself; I mean it’s still a very personal journey but I want to share it now and help others too. I took photos and wrote down love notes to my body without showing them to a soul- it was just for my soul and my mind. 💛 Starting an insta page could help you on your journey of course but your motives are what’s important- know what they are before starting is my advice. Maybe do it off social media first and get a feel for your journey and what works/doesn’t work for you and do it for YOU. Do it for your soul. Your follower count doesn’t matter or make you more or less worthy. 10,000 people telling you your pretty wont bring about self love either. It’s so much more than that and it starts deep inside yourself not with your aesthetics. Bopo isn’t a ‘trend’. 💛 It’s not about how many you can impress, you need to be impressing yourself. Make yourself proud.
Bravery should be shared because it’s contagious.
Don’t forget to share this with all of your friends. They need all the boost they can get from this.
Source: Good House Keeping