Your mental health is at a very high level when you start up a relationship. The butterflies in your stomach, happy moments, love, respect, tolerance, new people, etc. Everything goes in the right order.
You often say to your friends and family that this is it, he is the one you would want to spend your lifetime with.
Suddenly something happens. He is not the same person he used to be. You say to yourself “it’s okay, relationships change over time.”
From that moment, nothing ever will be the same like before.
You start to waste your energy on the relationship to save it from falling apart completely.
That affects your body and mind.
Being with someone that damages your mental health is never beneficial and a good idea. It’s time to put on your big girl pants and move on. It’s for the sake of your health.
If you still can’t figure out whether your relationship is bad for your mental health, here is what you should pay attention to:
You are Constantly Making Excuses for his Behavior
His behavior is not at the highest level, and he is disrespecting everyone around you. It’s like he wants to tell you something without mentioning it.
That’s how you find yourself making excuses for him. And that’s not the worst part.
There are two significant problems with making excuses for someone else.
- Problem #1: You are encouraging him to do the same thing over and over again without facing the consequences
- Problem #2: It harms the other relationships
The more you are making excuses for him, you are distancing yourself from the people who care about you.
You Can’t Handle the Anger, Fear or Anxiety While Interacting With Your Partner
Your negative emotions are so high at this time that you can’t tolerate anything that’s happening around you. It’s been quite some time since the last time you felt loved and respected.
The negative emotions swim up to the surface whenever you communicate with your partner.
You feel the anxiety, anger, and maybe fear if he has threatened you with physical harm.
It’s a typical reaction because you’ve been hurting for so long and any interaction brings up your negative feelings.
These annoying negative thoughts are slowly damaging your mental health.
You Avoid Your Right to Feel, Think or Act
If you are trying too hard to maintain the bad relationship, you might find yourself denying the right to feel, think or act.
The worst part is that you do not even realize it. All of your friends try to warn you about this, but you find them annoying and think they want you to be unhappy.
Burying your thoughts and repeating to yourself that you don’t have the right to feel like this will never be the healthy solution to the biggest problem.
You need to stand up and figure out why this relationship is damaging your mental health and you have to do it fast.
You Constantly Try to Fix the Broken Relationship
There is no point going with your head towards the wall. A relationship is a “battle” for two. Both people need to compromise, communicate, and make extensive efforts to make this relationship work.
You can’t do this alone.
If the other person is not putting his part to maintain a healthy relationship, there is not much you can do about it.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t tell you to quit and win for both of you. But a healthy relationship shouldn’t be forced. You can’t make someone love you again.
Carrying the whole load on your shoulders will start damaging your mental health, and you will end up fixing two things.
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