I would do anything to stop gossip immediately when my friends or clients start telling me something I don’t want to hear.
It’s the worst thing you can do or hear about the lives of the others. You just need to pay attention and focus your energy on what you do and your achievements.
Am I right or what?
I’m not God, and I can’t say that I never participated in a gossip talk, but whenever I catch myself in one, I always change the topic or do something else.
The gossip talk is usually about that person who is not sitting here at the moment. Imagine the next time you can’t go to a meeting with your friends. Guess who is going to be their main topic?
It’s not important who could be hurt with the gossip. Many women and men are enjoying to share some things that were shared in confidence at first place.
If you are sitting at home right now reading this, you probably say that you don’t gossip. Let’s face it. We all are. But the real question here is what we are going to do about it.
I’m ready to make a change because I’ve read a study that says 80% of our conversations contain gossip about other people and their strange habits.
We need to stop gossip immediately.
Regarding this, psychologists did a little research and found a phrase that will do exactly that, stop gossip immediately.
When someone tries to involve you in a conversation with another person who is not here at the moment, just ask:
“Why are you telling me this?”
Psychologists think that this is the only effective way because:
- The question releases self-serving motive from the person who is about to start the gossip
- It forces the gossiper to move on because you seem uninterested about that topic
According to an expert, Andrea Syrtash, gossip helps people bond with each other, but at the same time, it could be hurtful.
“People can use gossip to drag someone else under the bus, or it can help establish trust in someone,” she said. “But it’s worth being careful. If someone is always giving you the dirt on other people, then you’re part of the mix when she talks to someone else. Be careful how much information you share.”
So, why do you gossip and are you willing to do anything in your power to stop gossip immediately?
Think about it.
Don’t forget to share this with all of your friends. Let them know you are ready to change some things.
Source: David Wolfe